Merry Christmas, Everyone!

Hello strangers!

It’s been a while, hasn’t it?! I’ve been so busy with life in the real world that I’ve been struggling to keep my poor little blog updated. But here I am two days before Christmas holed up in my boyfriend’s bedroom and making sure that I have some time to up date you all as we come to the end of another roller coaster of a year!

2013 has definitely been a roller coaster, but thankfully with more ups than downs. This is the first year where I have felt that I’ve definitely figured out who I am and where I want to go in life, and that is honestly the best feeling in the world. I know who I am and for once I feel like I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be in life. I’ve never had that before, I’ve never felt so settled and comfortable in my own skin, and I guess you could say that is down to a few factors. Let’s see what those factors are, shall we?

1. Confidence – This year I made a resolution to myself that I was going to try and be more confident in my appearance and start wearing clothes that I would normally lust after but never actually purchase. I’ve always hidden behind the fact that I’m not really a girly girl in order to get away with not wearing pretty dresses or short skirts, but this year I promised myself that I was going to start wearing whatever the hell I liked, and if people had an issue with that then that was there problem. It’s been a year of bright colours, short skirts, dresses and no shame. It has been such a liberating feeling to go out wearing clothes that I like and not feel bad for wearing them. Sure, now and then I’ll get a comment or a stare, but I don’t care about those anymore. They would have destroyed me a while ago, but now I know that it’s their issue; not mine. I’m comfortable in my skin, I’m happy in my life and what I wear does not define me as a person.

2. People – Being surrounded by loving and supportive people has helped greatly in my journey to self acceptance. I’ve got great friends, a wonderful close family who support me no matter what, a fantastic college class full of a mixture of the most talented and odd people that I’ve ever met – they’ve definitely got me through the first term of college, but more on that later!- and of course, last but not least, I have the love of a good man to get me through even my darkest moments. He makes everything seem safe and that is a wonderful feeling. He’s been in my life for six months now, but it feels like he’s always been there. We’re just two matching pieces of a puzzle, and it feels absolutely lovely to share that bond with someone.

3. Belief – As you all know, I’m not the religious type. But that does not mean that I don’t have a belief system, it simply means that I believe in something a little different from the majority of today’s society. I believe in people, and I think that if more people did then the world would be a much nicer place. I believe that no matter how anxious I feel about something, it will no be the end of the world. I believe that every little thing that happens in our lives happens for a reason. I believe that what is for us will not pass us by, and I believe that it is our duty to grab those things with both hands and make the moments perfect instead of waiting for the perfect moments.

So there, the three things that have made this year my most self-confident year yet. I’m so content with life right now that there are only a few things that could knock me off of this cloud; but I’m not going to discuss them in this post. This post is a yearly roundup and I’m hoping to leave it on a positive note!

So, top ten things that happened this year?

  •  Deciding that life isn’t about what other people think
  • Interviewing one of my idols, Rae Earl
  • Being given my own column in the Konect Directory
  • Landing a job as a photography intern
  • Starting college and learning more and more about photography
  • Meeting Andrew and finding the wonderful love that we share
  • Coffee mornings for DLYG
  • Hitting 5,000 followers on the Don’t Lose Your Grip twitter account!
  • Reconnecting with my oldest niece, Chloe
  • Being proud of the person that I am today

It may not be the longest list in the world, but if I were to go through every great thing that happened this year then I would be here all day.

Over the years I’ve learned that life isn’t about physical things, but in the moments that surround you every day. This year has been full of wonderful moments that I will never forget, and the majority of those would not have happened had it not been for the people that are in my life. The people who are by my side no matter what.

As we come close to the end of the year, my head is full of ideas and hope for 2014. There are a lot of people out there who can’t wait for this year to be over, but to be honest I’m sitting here daring next year to try and be better than this year, and I’m sure it will be.

I want to wish all of you a magical Christmas and wonderful new year when it comes. Keep your eyes peeled for a more in depth update in the new year that will include a run-down of our hopes for Don’t Lose Your Grip and Chrisselle.com in 2014. Things are getting exciting, and I’m so glad that I get to share this journey with you all.

Much love,

Chrisselle xox

The Power of Words

Want to know the one thing that I’ve noticed these past few weeks, other than the fabulous weather that the UK has been having? Just how angry it makes me that larger people feel the need to cover up an uncomfortable amount during the heatwave in fear of being taunted or offending someone for what they are wearing.

I recently seen a girl wearing jogging bottoms, two t-shirts and a hoody in 28C heat, she looked uncomfortably warm and exhausted from the heat. There is no logic in wearing so many layers in a heat like that other than being too scared to show your body – I’ve been there, and some days I’m still there.

I remember dreading summer because I knew that I was going to be hot and sweaty and want to be covered up to avoid stares and comments being made about how I ‘shouldn’t’ wear certain things just because they came in my size.

The question is who gives society the right to dictate what people should and shouldn’t wear? The answer is the individual themselves. If you don’t let people get to you with their stares and comments, then there is no power in their words. You are the only person who can decide if what someone says is going to affect you, and more importantly how it will affect you. For example, if someone said to me that I ‘look like that girl from My Mad Fat Diary’ then I would be flattered, because Sharon Rooney is gorgeous, but some people may see that as an insult purely because of the word ‘fat’. Now, let’s just take a look at the word fat.

Fat.

/fat/

Noun: a natural oily or greasy substance occurring in animal bodies, esp. when deposited as a layer under the skin or around certain organs.

Adjective: (of a person or animal) Having a large amount of excess flesh.

So, looking at the official definition of the word, there isn’t really anything insulting about it, is there? I mean yes, I do have excess flesh, but the majority of that is from losing weight – and I could get that removed, but the truth is I value my life more than my body and I would much rather live a life with some extra flesh than increase my chance of death my voluntarily putting myself through a dangerous procedure.

Now, if we looked at the Urban Dictionary definition of ’fat’ then that would be a different story, but the thing is; there is no power in words unless you put that power there. If you were to read through the dictionary, you would simply see words with no power other than the power to create sentences and stories with them, so why can’t we see words like that all of the time?

Just because a word can have venom behind it, does not make it important. Live life the way YOU want to, and don’t pay attention to those people who feel the need to pass their own insecurities onto you!

I wore a dress without tights this week. Guess what? The world did not end! I then wore shorts, and I didn’t cause the zombie apocalypse! And more importantly, I enjoyed the heat instead of suffering in it.

All I’m saying is that you should wear what you are comfortable in, and what you like. Not what society says is socially acceptable for you to wear. Love that new dress? Wear it! Don’t leave it stored away for the moths to enjoy.

I know from personal experience that this can be hard, and it can be hard to find clothes that you feel comfortable in and enjoy from a fashion point of view, but you are not alone in the big beautiful world and you can find inspiration and tips from some fabulous people out there.

Tess Munster (@TessMunster) is a beautiful lady who is encouraging people on (and off of) Instagram to #effyourbeautystandards and accept yourself for who you are. Following this lady has given me the confidence to say #effyourbeautystandards and enjoy the clothes that I would have previously hidden away from.

Honor Curves (@HonorCurves) is another of my body acceptance idols. You can find her and her #honormycurves movement on Instagram and on Twitter. She’s out there making sure that women of all shapes and sizes remember to honour their bodies instead of judging them. We only get one body, and there is no point in going through life hating the shell you are in. Honor is a great inspiration for those looking for tips on how to accept your body.

There is also a HUGE network of plus-size beauty bloggers out there for you to find inspiration from. Don’t give up, and remember to stay fatulous!

Thanks for reading,
Chrisselle xo

Everything Happens For a Reason

We’ve all been told at some point in our lives that ”Everything happens for a reason.” or that ”What’s for you won’t go by you.” but just how often do you actually take those words on board and see the positives in the negative things that you experience?
I know more than anyone that the negatives of life can sometimes trick our brains into think that the positives don’t outweigh the negatives, but if you sit down and really think about it – and I mean really think about it, you’ll realise that they do.

If you were to write down a list of everything good that has happened in your life, and just how momentus they were to your life then I think you would be shocked by just how much positivity surrounds every single one of us. Whether it’s a smile from a stranger, or graduating from University with the grade you’ve worked hard for; all of these can change our perspectives and I think it’s time that we started focusing more on them as a society than focusing on the negativity that comes to play every day of our lives.
It’s time for us to wake up in the morning with excitement in our hearts instead of fear.

Think of the scariest thing you have ever done, and how absolutely terrified you were to do it – now, no matter the outcome, be it the one you hoped for or the one you dreaded – are you still here? Did the world end? Did it destroy you? The answer is you’re still here, ready for more and you just have to get your brain into thinking the same as your heart and courage.
I remember being terrified to leave the house most days – and I still have those days when my head is really bad, but you know what? I get up, and I go out. Even if it’s just to the shop. I just need to show myself that I can do it, and that nobody – not even myself is going to stop me from doing it.
Since realising this I have made so many of my own dreams come true, and I’ve loved every minute of it. I’m not cured – not by any means, but I’m in control of my anxiety instead of it being in control of me.
I’ve realised that every little thing that has ever happened in my life has brought me to this exact moment in time, with the people I have around me and the things that I am achieving being results of every bad experience, and more importantly, every good experience. We can’t go forward before going backwards, and there’s no light without darkness. You just need to try and stay positive and you will achieve the things you want to.

It sounds a lot easier than it is, I’m not going to deny that, but what I’m trying to say is that at the end of the day, every single minute of your life is worth it!
Never, ever think that it’s not, and if you ever do, then I have a challenge for you – ask your closest friend three things that they love about you. Then, when you know them write them on some sticky notes and put them on your mirror. Now, anytime that you have a negative thought or experience I want you to replace the negative words with one of these (or all three) and hopefully that will make you realise that what you see in yourself isn’t what everyone else sees – everyone else sees the beautiful, brave and wonderful human being that you are.

Thank you for reading,
Chrisselle xo

The Story of a Girl

I think that in this day and age, the most important thing that people could learn about themselves is the thing that makes them happy. It sounds so totally cliche and cheesy, but it’s true; Each of us has a purpose and once you find what yours is then you start to stop feeling so lost, because no matter what is going on in your life you will always have that one thing that gets you through.

For me, the things that get me through are writing, photography and doing things with Don’t Lose Your Grip. Being able to make a difference to other people is something that is really important to me, and my friends are always yelling at me for not taking enough credit for what I’ve started, but here’s the thing; I’m just Chrisselle. I’ve never changed from being the overweight 15 year old that I once was.

The only thing that distinguishes who I am now from the person that I still feel like is that I’m more confident in who I am and what my purpose of life is, I know what I want to do with life and I know who I want to be, and that is such a delightful feeling. It’s almost like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders, and I’m able to focus on making the things I want to happen, happen. I want to be able to tell my kids that they can follow their dreams no matter where they’re from or what the dreams may be, and how can I tell them that if I don’t take the chance myself first? So 2013 is the year of dreams.

This year I am going to be making things happen for DLYG, including holding some small fundraisers around the West Lothian area of Scotland, and then once we have enough I will be planning to hold a charity concert in the summer in order to raise funds for SAMH – Scottish Association for Mental Health. We are currently looking for some bands, and for ANYONE else that would like to help out with fundraising, so if you’re from the central belt of Scotland, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me on Twitter! @Chrisselle_ or @dontloseurgrip and use the hashtag #HelpDLYG!

As well as this happening, I’m planning to at least write two reasonably good stories to consider for publishing and I’m planning to blog more – which is proving difficult considering how busy I am! BUT, I am planning to write about a different topic each week, including book reviews etc. and, there will be a very important post on the DLYG portion of this site very soon, that will include the interview with the incredible Rae Earl. 

I want to take this chance to thank the people in my life that are supporting me through all of this. I am genuinely humbled by just how much these people believe in me, and just how incredibly supportive they are of everything I do. I couldn’t do it without any of you, and you all know who you are. If it wasn’t for the late night chats, the empty bottles of wine, the coffee mornings, and the nights of me forcing you to eat my food I don’t where I would be. You’re the best people in the world and I am forever thankful for your love and support.

Well, this blog doesn’t really make much sense and I’m sorry about that, but I promise that they will get better as the weeks go on – bare with me just now!

All I can say is that life is wonderful, if you make it wonderful.

What It Means To Be Living

Hey guys! I know that it’s been a while since I blogged, but that’s mainly due to the fact that the past month or so has probably been one of the hardest, and oddest months I’ve faced in a long time. My relationship ended, two of my uncles became life threateningly ill, and pretty much everything has been against me. But, somehow in all of this negativity; I’ve managed to find myself. And although that sounds too odd for words, it’s true.

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Show Your Scars, That’s Who You Are

Everytime I walk past a fashion store, or open a fashion magazine.. I’m bored. And I’m not just talking about because it’s the same models, the same poses, I’m bored because every thing that is shown in these stores or magazines is being worn by every other single person walking around that very store or buying that very magazine. When did humans start relying on a piece of paper or a piece of plastic molded into a mannequin to tell them how to dress?

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You’re Just Like The London Sun

So I’ve kind of abandoned Chrisselle.Com the past few weeks. Truth be told I’ve been super busy, crazy stressed and not had much to write about. I’m still not too sure what I’m going to write, but I just know that I’ve got some form of inspiration and I want to share it with you guys!

First of all I want to  thank everyone that’s been supporting Don’t Lose Your Grip, the support we’ve had is overwhelming and I’m so proud of the project thanks to all of you guys! It means the world to me, so thank you from the bottom of my heart!

The other day I was walking out of a store when a man held the door opened for me and I thanked him. Now, that seems like a particularly ordinary thing, doesn’t it? But the thing that shocked me was the man’s response. “You’re welcome. Not many people thank you usually when you do that, so good on you for still believing in manners!” the man laughed, smiled at me and then continued on his way in to the store. What shocked me, and I guess kind of stuck in my mind was the fact he said that not many people thank him. And it’s true, which is a shame. I’ve held doors open for people before and it’s usually replied to with a grunt or a dent in the leg from a shopping trolly or pushchair. Now I bet you’re sitting there thinking “Why are you telling me this Chrisselle?” Well my point is that so many people complain that chivalry is dead and that there’s no manners left.. and yet do you even appreciate when someone does actually do something kind for you? Or do you thank that person that’s took a moment out of their day to make your day easier with a grunt?

Everyone’s more than happy to point out the faults in society, or even in the people they love most. But have you ever thought that you may actually contribute to the herd state of mind? Everyone’s so busy these days that the point of taking two minutes to hold a door for someone seems to be completely beneath them, it’s quite a simple thing, but it seems that people are forgetting the most simplest of manners. It saddens me to be honest.

I tweeted earlier that it was ‘time for change’ and a few of you tweeted me back asking if there was anything you could do to help. The truth is that there isn’t. The things I need to change are within me. And as cliche as that sounds, it’s true. I’ve changed from the person I was this time last year. I’m nowhere near as outgoing, or as strong I guess you could say. Things take their toll, and the past year has been difficult, yet incredible at the same time. And so it’s time to be that person again, and I don’t care how long it takes, I will be that person. I’m not going to take bullshit from people that think they can just walk all over me, I’m going to be the Chrisselle that I was, the one that used to put people in their place when they even tried to tip-toe across me, never mind stamp. So yeah, there’s going to be a few changes happening pretty soon.

I also want to mention just how proud I am of @hammyhavoc. On the 13th May I’ll have known this wonderful human being for 15 months. Such a short period of time, but in that time I’ve watched him accomplish so much, not just professionally, but personally too. He’s an inspiration to every life he touches, and hopefully one day he’ll stop being so modest and accept the fact that he is incredible and that people are lucky to know him. Hammy, myself and @fanboycraig have been busy lately! There’s a little something that you guys should check out:

  • Split An AtomThis is our online portfolio. Everything you could possibly want to see that we’ve done is on here, it’s a fast, easy way to see the services that the team offer and an even easier way to get in touch with us if you would like us to do any of those things for you! We range from logo design, to photography and to full blown site design. Hit us up!

Some other news for you guys! The DLYG family is now online and you can check them out by clicking here. You can also find out who we picked as our first charity that we will be donating to from the money raised with our Liverpool event in July by visiting the Don’t Lose Your Grip website! We’ve also now got all six models, so all we’re really looking for now is bands! More exciting news shall be coming for you guys once we’ve hit 1,000 followers over on the DLYG Twitter.

Also! We’ve got a new gallery section right here on Chrisselle.Com check it out by clicking here or by simply clicking the ‘Photography’ section in the navigation bar at the top!

Much love and many thanks for reading!
Chrisselle.

Day Six – I Wrote The Book

Monday is apparently the most dreaded day of the week, and to be honest, I don’t see why. Monday is a clean slate to a new week that can be filled with many exciting things, some small and some huge.

Previews that leave you envious.

If you follow me on Twitter then you’ll know that I had some exciting news to share with you all today, you can read all the details here, but I’ll give you a quick run down anyway. So basically I made you guys hold out until 6PM GMT to find out what the big news was that Hammy and I were teasing you about. The news was that of an exciting new project that I’m involved in! A lot of you may remember me mentioning doing an interview about Don’t Lose Your Grip with Previous Magazine. I’m now extremely proud to tell you that the Previous site is now officially online! You can check it out now my heading over to PreviousMagazine.Com! There you will find the latest and greatest news about the things you actually want to know. Check it out and while you’re there why not let us know the news that you want to know?

I also done some pretty boring things today, such as attend a hospital appointment, drop off some medication to my dad, spend time with my sister, and I also finally got round to dying my hair.

 

Chrisselle
The end result!

 

This isn’t a long post, it’s more a proposition. I’ve been getting a lot of feedback from yesterday’s blog of #100FactsAboutMe and I thought that it could be fun to involve you guys in a post at some point this week, so I thought that if you guys send your questions to [email protected] I would be able to do a kind of ‘open interview’ with you guys! What do you think? Email me your questions and I’ll answer. I’m actually super excited about this! I love talking to all of you guys, if you don’t want your name published please say and it shall be kept our little secret!

So, after being awake for roughly 36 hours, visiting the hospital twice in that time and doing tons of other stuff, I think it would be safe to say that I’m feeling a little ‘sleepy’. But first I wanted to share with you guys just how lovely a day it was here in Livingston.

It started getting bright around 6AM and I’ve gotta say I just love this time of year, when it gets brighter earlier and stays bright for longer, it has such a good effect on my mood and I adore it!

Okay, as I said, I’m extremely tired and my whole chipped knee bone thing is pretty painful so I think it’s time for me to catch some z’s! I hope you all had a wonderful start to your week and I can’t wait to hear from you guys involving the open interview! Much love!

Hot Water Bottles and Snuggies,
Chrisselle

 

Previous Magazine

 

 

“Here’s to the Crazy Ones. The misfits. The rebels. The trouble-makers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently.They’re not fond of rules, and they have no respect for the status-quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify, or vilify them.About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward.And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world – are the ones who do.”

– Steve Jobs

The above quote from the incredible man that is Steve Jobs could inspire the most non-believing person to believe in themselves. It could inspire someone to change the path they are currently on and make them head outwards upon a greater one. It could inspire a generation, and in my eyes I think that’s what the world needs. We need a generation who know that they can do whatever they put their mind to, but more importantly, they need a generation to show them how it’s done.

I’m sure you’ve seen a magazine before, right? Even an online one. Each one of them the same. The same stories, the same layout and the same attitude. We all know that too much of something can make us sick, so this site that I’m telling you guys about is something completely different.

Recently, Craig Lackie, myself and a team of others, whom you don’t yet know, have set about a new project: An online magazine that talks about the things that matter. Previous Magazine; Previews that make you envious.

Previous Magazine is about what people really want to find out; It focuses on it’s content and it’s readers, not on what the latest celebrity is doing with their hair. At Previous you will find reviews of the latest and greatest things to get your hands on, the best things to recommend to your friends and of course that means you get that extra buzz of knowing it before anyone else does.

Too many physical and digital publications jump upon whatever the corporations spit out and put on television this week, this leaves the unknown individuals, groups and products by the wayside for the most part, but we’re going to put them up there with the rest of them.

As you already know: I support change, and nothing promotes change better than this magazine. Times are tough for everyone right now, but by reaching out and finding out the things that people want to know, together we can put together a new kind of media, the kind that doesn’t insult but instead inspires, the kind that tells you the do’s and don’ts in a way you want to be told. Myself and the guys at Previous are so excited about letting you guys in on this little gem that we’ve been working on together for a month or so now. We thought that it was time that the performer got to meet it’s audience.

So why don’t you pop on over to PreviousMagazine.Com and see for yourself what the big fuss is about? Help us make the media more reader friendly. Help us bring the media back to the people, and enjoy the ride along the way. I promise: You won’t be disappointed.

Hugs and high-fives,
Chrisselle

Day Three – Welcome To My Silly Life

I thought this post could be a little insight into my life, and let you guys know who inspired me to become the person I am today. It’s more a list than a blog I guess, but hopefully it’ll let you guys into my mind a little more than some of the other posts I’ve put up for you guys.

These people are listed in no particular order, because each of them have had an equal impact on my life.

P!nk (Alecia Beth Moore)

Everyone knows who P!nk is, she’s a huge artist, an incredible live performer an inspiring activist and a voice for those who can’t be heard. But to me? To me she’s so much more. I don’t think there’s one P!nk song that I can’t relate to, she’s such an incredible human being, never mind artist. She inspires me by the way she carries herself and how she deals with the media, and she also inspires me through her music. She’s the reason I’m still alive, and for that I will always be thankful to her.

Jacqueline Wilson

Jacqueline Wilson is a British author, her books were the first books to ever get me interested in reading, the first books to ever have an impact on my life and the books that inspired me to become a writer. She made being unique ‘okay’ and that definitely had a huge impact on my life during my preteen and early teen years. Even to this day she still inspires me.

Beth Ditto (The Gossip)

Beth Ditto is just one of those women that as soon as you hear her voice, or read an interview with her you realize that you don’t need to be considered ‘normal’ to fit in. She’s a huge inspiration to me, both because of her music and because of the person that she is. If she’s taught me anything it’s to never be afraid to say ‘fuck you’ to people that say you won’t be able to do something.

Hammy Havoc

Hammy Havoc is an incredible young man from Liverpool, UK. If you haven’t heard of him you must have been living under a rock. Hammy’s been in my life for just over a year now, and I couldn’t imagine a day without him. He’s the person that I go to when I need someone, but not only that, he’s the person that’s always there before I need someone. He knows how I’m feeling before he even asks. He inspires me to believe in myself, and that’s something I never thought anyone would be capable of. He inspires me every day just by breathing, and I hope that he knows that. You can’t know Hammy, without loving him. And me? Yeah, I love him with every piece of me. Thank you for saving my life every day.

Lorraine Mowatt (My mother)

Yeah, I’m guessing a lot of you are surprised by that. As much as my mom and I fight, I have a huge amount of respect for her. She raised four kids by herself and held two jobs down (at the same time). She’s supported each of us, and protected us to the best of her ability. She’s strong, and I wish I was even half as strong as her at times.

My Family

Yes, my family as a whole are in inspiration to me. We’ve been through some things that would tear a family apart at the seams, but somehow we’ve managed to hold on to each other and remain a strong family unit. Yeah sure, we may piss each other off, but I know that when it comes down to it I have a huge family support network that would help me out of any situation.

My Friends

My friends are probably some of the most inspiring people I have ever met. They’re the people that put what’s bothering them to the side to help me with my problems. The people that I know will always be there to help me up if I ever fall down. And the people that make life a whole lot easier.

You

By ‘you’ I mean exactly that, you reading this, whoever you are inspire me and have a huge impact on my life simply by reading what I have to say. You let me into your life just my listening to me. So thank you, for being a huge impact on someone’s life halfway across the world.

Well, hopefully this post has let you that little bit further into my life. I’d also like to say a huge thank you to everyone that’s mentioned. And to you for reading.

Much love and many thanks,
Chrisselle